Violence between parents: how family conflicts affect children

      Psychologist of GBUZ "Zainsk Central District Hospital" Helena Tsymbal: "Children learn about relationships by observing adults. The atmosphere in the family becomes a model for their future life."

      The family should be a place of safety, support, and trust. However, if a child regularly witnesses quarrels, humiliation, threats, or physical violence between parents, it has a serious impact on their mental and emotional development. Many adults believe that if a conflict occurs out of the child's sight or is not directed at them personally, they do not understand anything. In reality, children are very sensitive to their parents' emotional state and react sharply to the tense atmosphere at home.

      Fear, anxiety, and guilt

      A child living in a constant conflict environment often feels fear for themselves and their loved ones. They may be in a constant state of expectation for the next quarrel, leading to chronic stress and anxiety. Often, children start to look for reasons for what is happening within themselves. They feel that their parents are arguing because of their behavior or poor grades. This sense of guilt gradually destroys their self-confidence and forms low self-esteem.

      How a child's behavior changes

      Psychological experiences often reflect in behavior. Some children become withdrawn, avoiding communication with peers and adults. Others, on the contrary, begin to show aggression, copying the behavior model they see at home every day.

      There may also be difficulties with studies. A child finds it hard to concentrate on lessons when their thoughts are occupied with worries about the family situation. Academic performance decreases, and memory and attention worsen.

      When emotional pain manifests through the body

      Constant emotional tension can cause physical symptoms. Children often experience headaches, stomach pains, sleep disturbances, and changes in appetite.

      Such manifestations are called psychosomatic. The body reacts to stress just like the psyche, signaling that the child needs help and support.

      What relationship models do children carry into adulthood

      One of the most serious problems is that a child perceives what they see as the norm. If it is common in the family to humiliate, control, intimidate, or use force, they may consider such a relationship model as natural.

      In adult life, this manifests in different ways. Some people become victims of abusive relationships, unable to establish personal boundaries. Others use aggression and pressure as a way to resolve conflicts.

      Moreover, adults who grew up in an atmosphere of violence often face difficulties with trust, emotional intimacy, and creating a strong family.

      What parents can do

      Even if the relationship between adults is going through a difficult period, it is important to remember: the child should not witness insults, threats, and violence.

      If it is not possible to resolve conflicts independently, it is necessary to seek help from specialists. Working with a psychologist helps learn to solve problems constructively, control emotions, and maintain a favorable atmosphere for children.

      It is important to remember

      "Every child has the right to grow up in a safe and calm environment. The sooner adults realize the consequences of domestic violence and seek help, the greater the chances of preserving the child's mental health and preventing negative consequences in the future," notes psychologist of GBUZ "Zainsk Central District Hospital" Helena Tsymbal.

      Children do not just observe their parents' relationships—they learn from their example. Therefore, caring for the psychological climate in the family is the most important contribution to the child's future.

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